When Is It Time To Start Couples Counseling?
There is a common phrase in the field of couples counseling: "When your partner asks you to go to couples counseling, say yes the first time."
Is it intimidating and overwhelming to consider that you and your partner should start attending couples counseling? Absolutely! But will you also find more joy, connection and love between you and your partner after attending counseling? 100%.
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The initial hurdle of letting your walls down, setting ego aside and accepting that there is room for improvement for both parties is no easy task. Many couples never make this leap, choosing to accept a mediocre relationship. These relationships unfortunately may result in separation, or an unhealthy home environment for both their partner and their children.
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So, when is it time to start couples counseling services? We are admittedly biased - but we recommend couples therapy now.
What is Already Working? A Strength Based Approach to Couples Counseling
A common fear that prevents clients from attending couples therapy (or any counseling!) is that the therapist will focus on what you aren't doing correctly (who wants that?). Whether this is your explosive anger, lack of physical intimacy or whatever else you may be worried you'll be criticized for - where are here to assure you, that isn't our approach!
Why? Well, it doesn't work.
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Research shows that a strength based approach to couples counseling which focuses on what the couple already has going for themselves is the most effective form of counseling.
We pull from the Gottman's research to help both parties feel understood, taking a constructive approach to managing conflict and reminding the couple - you are not broken! Just in need to some new tools to improve your lives together.
Neurofeedback as additional support for Couples Counseling
Neurofeedback is our secret sauce for helping couples communicate and interact more effectively. When you and your partner participate in nervous system regulation, you can be more mindful of how you communicate and interact to choose behaviors that help you reach your goals more effectively.
f you are interested in better self regulation without talking through your problems - neurofeedback is for you!
